Sunday, March 14, 2010
Bad Mom
Lately I have been feeling like I am a bad mom. Will used to be such a happy baby, now he throws tantrums, doesn't eat, rarely naps, he will be crying and I will pick him up, only to have him cry and scream harder and want nothing to do with me. He would rather throw himself on the ground then have me hold him. His eating has gotten really, really bad. He doesn't want anything except fruit and hardly NO veggies. Don't even get me started on meats. He'll only eat chicken, sometimes. I try, really hard. I try the choo choo train, I try showing him that it's yummy by me eating it first. I know this doesn't make me a bad mom. What makes me a bad mom is I get so frustrated! I try and then when what I know how to do doesn't work, I shut down. I just wait until he comes to me and try my best to ignore it. I know he needs to get out and be with other kids his age, but who? I don't know if I am just not easy to get along with or I am too brash or whatever, but I just don't feel as though I fit in anywhere really. I have convinced myself that I enjoy being alone. That really, reading all the time is much more fun then how awkward I feel trying to make friends. And in turn for whatever reason it is I can not seem to make/keep friends here in SL, poor Will suffers because all he gets to do is stay at home with Mommy, go on walks with Mommy, play at the park with Mommy. Never playing with kids his own age. He LOVES playing with other kids. Am I really that bad of a person that I just don't fit in anywhere? I just don't know what to do about anything.
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I am sure you are not a bad mom....kids get a mind of their own at this age!! As for the social thing, I feel the same way. I am perfectly happy to be alone or be with Brett. I am not good at all at going out of my way to make friends. The best I do is force myself to go to planned events so that I am somewhat social. If you figure it out, let me know! There is anything wrong with you...it is just figuring out what works best for you.
I think everyone feels that way...at least I do! I feel bad for Parley too, because I like to be home. One thing I do for him is go to a little library book/singing time they offer once or twice a week. It is only 20 min but it gets him to see other people. Afterwards some of the mom's stay and talk while the kids play together. You could look into the libraries in SL and see if any of them offer something like that.
Sorry, I don't have any other suggestions. But you are definitely not a bad mom.
You are NOT a bad mom! Will is at a big place in his life! He wants to do things on his own but wants you around also. The first in many similar stages! Try not to take it personally. He is just figuring things out. I agree, I think most mom's feel this way at some point. It takes a long time to find your place. It took me a couple of years living here. It will happen. :) Besides who wouldn't want to be your friend?! You are awesome!!
You are Not a Bad mom, just a mom of a one year old. I agree with Bec, Will is just trying to figure out how to be his own person, and it can be scary for him. It will get better, just beathe and pray, you'll be fine. You are such an amazing Mom! And it does take a while to fit in. You have lived in 3 different places in 2 years, no wonder you don't feel connected. It takes time don't get discouraged. It took me almost 2 years to feel like I had any good friends here in IF. You are an amazing woman and you will find friends. Love You
Do you have a play group in your ward?
COME OVER!!!!! ANYTIME!!! We really miss you, and Wilbur is always welcome at the Wood house. Roo and Will would have a blast together. Call me. Or I will show up at your place.
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